Listen to thoughts, not feelings
When I was growing up, it was said that one should not engage in discussions of religion or politics. These days, engaging in conversation concerning how someone raises their children is just as likely to end the relationship as a discussion of their religious or political beliefs.
The further problem is that anti-intellectualism is in the air. In “The Iron Lady,” the aged Margaret Thatcher, as portrayed by Meryl Streep, becomes quite agitated when her physician asks her how she’s feeling. She reprimands him, noting that it is a person’s thoughts, not their feelings, that truly count, that truly reflect the character of the person.